After waited and waited for baby KK’s arrival, finally our little KK was born on the due date, Dec 6th, when she’s exactly 40 weeks old.
KK came out at the perfect time just seemed she knew her daddy was super busy during the time with his work and school. She waited till her daddy finished his final exam for his MBA class. Hon submitted his final exam on Dec 4th, then on dec 4th mid night, I started to feel a mild contraction throughout the whole night. It’s not painful but just a light cramping. So the next morning, on Dec 5th, we brought our hospital bag and went to hospital. We were thinking baby must be on her way out now.
As we went to Labor & Deliver Department, we registered at the front desk, had my urine sample to the nurse, and changed to a hospital gown. We stayed in the Observation Room. While waiting for the midwife, Nurse set up the machine to monitor my baby heart beats and my contraction activities. I could see the graphs from the computer that as my contraction came, there’s increased slope and then it decreased as the contraction faded out. You could also figure the frequency of my contraction from the graph. About 20 minutes later, the midwife came in. She checked the contraction graphs and my cervix. I was exciting and nervous to know what she will say. I felt I was ready for giving birth. However, the midwife said the contraction didn’t come consistently and plus I was not dilating yet. I was a bit disappointed because I can’t wait to give birth to our daughter. So we got sent back home right away. It was false alarm! 😦
So we got back home and I continued to walk more at home just to hope it will expedite my contraction. Only one day till my due date, I didn’t want to go through the NST and induced labor. Around 8pm on Friday night, Dec 5th, my contraction came back and gets a bit stronger than the night before. I started to record down the time and time intervals for each contraction. This went on that night, I tried to sleep around 10pm but I couldn’t due to the contraction pain. I rolled around in the bed, there were times I had to get up the bed and had my body lean forward on the bed. This position seemed helping me to relieve the pain a little bit better. For the whole time until 1am in the morning, I couldn’t sleep at all. The pain came and gone, and came back again. Finally, I couldn’t stand the pain anymore. So we packed the hospital bag and headed to hospital again at 1:30am on Dec 6th.
When we arrived to the hospital, we did the same drill and had the doctor came to check on me. I was wishing I could get admitted to hospital and started my delivery as soon as possible. However, the doctor said I only dilated for 1cm at this point. According to Kaiser policy, they can only accept patients if their dilation is at least 3cm. The doctor said I would need to go home again. Both me and hon were disappointed for this policy as I had so much pain but there was nothing we could do. A minute later, doctor checked my amniotic Fluid. It took her quite some time to check and finally she said the fluid was quite low. She said she had to admit me to the hospital and had me being monitored closely. Both of my hon and I were happy for the admission. This means I will be delivered soon if my dilation progress fast enough.
So I was transferred to a private labor room around 3am on Saturday, Dec 6th. As they set up everything and had me monitored, finally hon and I could have a bit rest. During the whole time, my contraction got stronger and stronger. I tried my best to hold all the pain. But it was not easy as the contraction came more and more often. I wanted to have epidural. But nurse and midwife said it was recommended to inject when my dilation reached to 3cm. So the whole night I was in pain, terribly. When the midwife came to check my dilation at 7am, I was disappointed to know I was only dilated a little bit, like 2cm. Until the morning time around 8am, I requested for a IV pain medication. I was put into sleep. However I still felt the contraction pain. The pain in the morning was worse than ever. I was sweating and tried to hold the pain. I could sense the surrounding environment and knew what people are doing, but I can’t respond to anything. I could see hon tried to wipe my sweat on my forehead and face and I could see he was walking around me. I also knew nurses coming in and out constantly. But I was so drowsy that I couldn’t control on anything. Then I started to get anxious, scared and nervous. I tired my best to open my eyes and sit up on the bed. I requested the nurse that I didn’t want to take the medication anymore. But nurse said she already did and she couldn’t stop the injection now. I was so drowsy but in the meantime, I was scared to fall into sleep. I heard one of the nurses said no one should have woke me up and now I was trying to fight with the medication. What came next was that I kicked everyone out from the labor room. I told the nurses to step out for awhile. Only hon left beside me. Then I turned on the piano music from the YouTube and tried to calm myself down and fell into sleep. But it didn’t work at all. At last, I asked hon to step out the room as well. So I was alone in the labor room and I wasn’t sure till when that everyone came back in again. But hon told me afterward that he was kicked out by me for 30 minutes. Well, I know it sounded funny that I kicked everyone out the room during my labor.
Around noon time, I requested epidural after suffer in pain for the whole night and whole morning. Since then, I finally had a good rest and sleep without the sensation of contraction pain as my lower body was numb. I was regret for not getting epidural earlier. Another good news was my dilation had reached to 7cm around noon time and 9.5cm around 5pm on Saturday. I was so delighted to know this. Because it meant I was almost ready to push and see my baby soon.
Around 6pm, I started to feel the pressure of pushing as contraction came. I didn’t feel the contraction pain but the pressure was terrible as well. Nurse said it takes couple hours to push the baby out for some people. I got scared and I really didn’t wanted to take it anymore. I had enough pain for the whole day. As I tried to push, I feel so much pressure. I then requested the midwife and nurse that I wanted a cesarean birth instead. I was totally giving up on natural virginal birth at that time. I couldn’t take it anymore. The surgeon came in and explained the pros and cons of having cesarean delivery. They all encouraged me to continue pushing since I had gone this far. They didn’t want me to give up at the last minute. So I tried to push again, then hon said he could see baby’s hair now. That means her head is on the way out. At this point, there’s no way I could have cesarean delivery anymore. So I followed the midwife and nurse instruction in breathing and pushing. I was squeezing hon’s hand as I pushed. After about 20 minutes of effort, baby KK finally delivered and I was feeling such a relieve now. When they place baby in my chest, I was so happy to see our baby and now i could finally hold her in my arms. I was also glad that I didn’t give up and everyone encouraged me not to.
So the following two days, I stayed in hospital for the recovery. However, there’s another issue came up. My neck and my head were in pain due to epidural. I was having terrible spinal headache and my neck was tense that I couldn’t even move my neck. Whenever I get up the bed, I felt the terrible headache. So I ended up lying on bed for the next two days. I couldn’t get up to take care of baby. Thank god hon was there with me for the whole time. He was the one who took care of me and our baby. He was the one who learned from nurse how to feed baby and change diaper. He was the one who got up in the middle of the night to feed baby and temper her to sleep. I know it was not easy for new parents like us. Until the day we got discharged from hospital, I had another epidural procedure by the anesthetist. He did the blood patch on my spinal core so I no longer could experience the spinal headache and neck pain. I am glad that I did this procedure though I was extremely scare. Right after the procedure, I immediately felt the effect. The spinal headache and neck pain were gone right away. I was so happy I got back to normal. Now I was ready to go home and take care of our baby KK.
Now it’s been a week since baby KK was born. Things were not easy as being first time parents. Though we thought we had everything ready for baby, but we didn’t. So hon went out for some baby shopping. For me, I stayed home resting. I mostly bed rest now since I had some back pain. Thank god my mom in law was here and family helped us. They had taken care of me and baby KK through the whole time. Now I feel much better comparing to last week. With all the chores of taking of baby, I am pretty busy as well. Especially night time, both hon and me got up and feed baby as well as changing diaper. I know we both are lack of sleep. So I tried to take a rest while baby is sleeping.
There are times that both hon and I couldn’t believe that we became parents already. And we couldn’t believe that this little adorable girl KK is our daughter. This is a turning point in our life too. We now have more responsibilities. But I am sure we will enjoy the journey of parenthood and we will learn to be a good parents. I just wish our little KK be a healthy and happy girl as she grows up. 🙂